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Marriage and Family: 3 Ways to change your view of things

April 30, 2013

We all could use a change of perspective.  Our last blog was on the outside influences in our lives and the 2 ways to fight against the stuff that impacts the way we think, feel and act.  Today, we want to share with you 4 ways to change your view of things.  Remember: "78% of all people allow something outside of themselves to decide what they feel."

We know what we are about to say is true for the majority of the people reading this blog.


Just in the last few weeks, we have talked with people who are trying to make some major life decisions.  We have talked with couples who marriages appears to be hanging on by a thread.  We have heard friends share their worries about their kids, their careers, their church, their parents, etc.  Most of us feel like life is asking more from us than we can deliver, with more problems than we can solve.  Many feel an over-whelming sense and stress of all that is on their plate.  Worry, stress, deadlines, financial pressure, unknown future, family strife, raising kids in a crazy culture, people and their expectations, and on and on it goes.  But do not be dismayed or discouraged.  We want to help!  Here are 3 tangible ways to help you change your perspective when life gets like this.  The first 2 are positive choices and last 1is a practical ways to guard your heart, to guard against the little foxes that ruin the vineyard of your soul.  Scripture says in Song of Songs 2:15

"Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom."

First, take some time, every day, and Worship.  Something amazing happens when we take our focus off our circumstances and onto our creator.  When HE becomes larger in our hearts through worship our circumstances and stresses become smaller.  Right now, the best thing you could do after readin this blog is to slow down long enough, just take 10 minutes and put on your favorite worship songs and worship.

Second, stay connected in an encouraging community of believers.  Isolation is the last thing anyone needs when life is going crazy.  You need to be around encouragers.  You also need to live as an encourager.  Staying connected and building Godly friendships and relationships that allow this to happen is a must!  When others know your story and can come along side of you to encourage you, you get stronger.  When you get stronger, you get to pay it back or pay it forward by starting to encourage others.  When you do this, the amazing things is you also get encouraged again.

Third guard against complaining.  It is so true that negativity can get the best of us.  And when we are stressed and over-loaded, it is so easy to complain, gripe, while majoring on the minors. Just last week, we were watching American Idol and the contestants were visiting a children's hospital to encourage the kids there.  Honestly, we were undone because in the midst of all that we are personally trying to manage in our busy lives, with a bit of complaining and stressing along the way, we were confronted that if you just look around, you can find someone who is dealing with much more than you probably are!  So guard against the complaining and give your concerns to the Lord.  After all, HE sees, HE knows, HE understands and YOU are not alone.  Besides, this is where HE wants you any way....totally dependent on HIM to get you through.  It is in these times that our faith is stretched, HIS presence is felt and our problems are released.

Yes, stress is real, life is hard and our plates are full...but we have choices.  We can choose to worship, we can choose to develop, serve, encourage and live in encouraging relationships and we can choose to be positive in our approach to our problems.  We would love to hear from you!

How has worship changed your view of things?

How has staying connected in encouraging Christian community helped you get through some tough days? 

How has guarding agaist complaining helped you rise above the stress?

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If you would like to read Jena’s Blogs on Living Deeper with Christ and helping others do the same, don't forget to visit her website:  www.livingdeeperministries.com

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