Marriage and Family: In The WordJanuary 16, 2012
Right Resolution, Wrong Pathway
If I told you that one of my resolutions was to lose weight and get healthy
(which is usually always on the list somewhere!), you might ask me how I was
going to accomplish this goal. If I answered, "I've decided to eat all the high
sugar and fatty foods I can find and not exercise at all", I think you'd
determine that I will certainly not meet my objective. Why? Because the
resolution was right, but the pathway to reach that goal was wrong.
How many of us have written these on our resolution list: to be a better
Christian, to be a better spouse, friend, or parent?These are all great
resolutions. But how will you reach these goals? Would my answer be to read the
Bible more? Clean the house more? Give more gifts? Be a stronger disciplinarian?
While these might be great results of the pathway, they truly aren't the right
pathway. The answer is not found in doing more but rather in relating more.
Jesus said it like this: "You diligently study the Scriptures because you think
that by them you posses eternal life. These are the Scriptures that testify
about Me, yet you refuse to come to Me to have life." John 5:39-40
You see, in order to become a better Christian, I must make real transparent and
vulnerable contact with Jesus. So much so that I begin to know His voice more
and more distinctly and then am able to follow His voice. I begin to spend
intentional time in His presence so that His life becomes a part of who I am. As
I do this, my life is transformed and I begin to look like Him. I may find
myself drawn to read His Word more, but the primary motivation is relationship.
Relationship breathes life, real abundant exciting life, into you.
This principle is truly the pathway to approach our other resolutions as well.
You want a better marriage, better friendships, and to be a better parent? Don't
do more! Be in relationship more. Take time to have real conversations with
others that are authentic and honest. Get to know them better. Understand where
they are, how they are feeling about themselves, what struggles they are facing,
and reciprocate these things to them. Out of that, you will know their needs and
best know how to pray for them, encourage them and meet those needs as the
Spirit reveals how. And they can do the same for you. Relationship truly does
breath life into your life.
Double-dog dare: this week, seek to consistently engage the Father, your spouse,
your friends and/or your children in relationship. Have open and honest
conversations. (NOTE: If this is new, it may take some time for others to open
up, so be patient and persevere.)
Father, bless each of us and our efforts to press in to deeper relationship with
you and others in the name of Jesus, amen.
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