Support and Partnerships: Keepin’ Things Real: 7 Secrets to a thriving marriage (Part 7)June 15, 2011
Here's the 7th and final secret to an Authentic Marriage. You will find all of these (in detail) in our new DVD driven Bible Study "Let's Get Real. The blogs are just a taste of what the study offers you, what God has in store for you and your marriage and how you really can find, grow and have the marriage God desires for you. A pastor just sent us a message saying "my couples are eating it up, the study is incredible with couples finding real break throughs!" And secret # 7 is all about love!
In our chapter on love, we show couples four ways to authentically demonstrate love in their relationship. In fact, these four ways are not limited to just marriage, they are universal for all of your relationships. Jesus said the priority of our lives is to love HIM and to love others! (Matt. 22). Galatians 5:6 tells us that the ONLY thing that counts is "faith expressing itself through love!" John 13:35 says "everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” This is why we wrote in our DVD work-book:
"when a husband and wife put each other before themselves,
it marks them as children of God. God desires that others
notice a difference in how you live your life, how you treat your spouse
and how you show love to one another!"
But let's be honest. Some days, we just don't feel like loving others do we? Some days, the pain, hurt and heartache seems so close and so personal that the choice we make is anything but love. But just because it is hard and just because it is not what you feel like doing, this does not let you off the hook. Friend, love is a choice and a direct action of your will. Love is much more than a feeling. We learned this first hand after our divorce and remarriage. God had done a miracle, he had healed us of so much hurt, he had reconciled and restored so much, but there we still days that we were selfish, fearful and holding onto the past. In other words, we didn't FEEL like loving. The truth we found however, was this: If you want to live at a higher place, if you want to live in and experience love in the marriage God has for you...then you are going to have to rely on something much more than your feelings. In other words, on the days you just don't "FEEL LIKE LOVING" you still "ACT LOVING" to your spouse. You see friends, just start by acting like you love one another and the feelings will follow. Do the little things. Go back to the basics. Simply choose to be kind, considerate and careful with your words. Show appreciation and gratitude and stop taking things for granted. Perhaps this is why John wrote in 1 John 3:18 "Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.
So today, go ahead, live out secret number 7 and decide to love others. Love your spouse, your kids, your friends and co-workers. Love them freely and lavisly no matter how you feel. After all that is how you were loved by Christ.
If you want to find out more about the four ways to demonstrate love, as well as, the other areas for your marriage like: how to hold each others hearts well, how to find freedom from your past and shame, how to resolve conflict, authentically forgive and much, much more, then get your copy of our DVD and companion work-book "Let's Get Real" by clicking here to connect to our store
Dale and Jena
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Matee On Thursday, July 07 at 4:44 AM
Oh yeah, fbauulos stuff there you!