Marriage and Family: 7 Secrets to a thriving marriage (Part 4)April 06, 2011
"fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God." Heb. 12:2
As we continue this blog series from our DVD Bible study, todays secret to a thriving marriage is perhaps one of the most significant areas in which a couple must find victory for their lives and marriages. We know this for sure, it is where our ENEMY does his greatest work. We are talking about the ruthless and relentless efforts to keep us from living the abundant "ZOE" life offered by Christ. So if you want to know how to fight the enemy well and rise to a higher place in your marriage then you must get off of what we call the SHAME TRAIN.
So what is SHAME? In our Let's Get Real Bible Study we define shame as the feeling that damage has been done to who you are, to the very soul of your being and you feel like it can't be repaired. Because of sin, failure, the assault of our enemy and the belief system we build around all of this, Shame takes root in your heart and leaves you stagnant in a stronghold. Ofter times it is a deep seated wound that leaves you feeling like everyone else can get it together but you can't. It carries with it condemnation, a lack of self-worth and value.
In our Let's Get Real Bible study we talk about the SHAME TRAIN and what it actually looks like. We don't have time to dig into that here in this blog, after all, we want to give you the secret to how to rise above it. This secret is found in Jesus Christ and how he dealt with Shame. Scripture says we have a Savior that is intimately aware of our suffering and struggles. Mathew 8:17 reminds us that “He took up our infirmities and bore our diseases.” Hebrews 12:2 says that Christ sealed the deal when HE endured the Cross and scorned its shame!!! You have got to get this...no matter what has been done by you or to you, our wonderful Savior, the PIONEER and PERFECTOR of our faith endured the Cross of Calvery and scorned its shame. You see friend, Jesus has taken the pain of shame and set you free through HIS death, burial and resurrection. As HIS LIFE DEMONSTRATED HE now offers you two thiings to win the battle over shame. First, he offer you forgiveness. No matter what you've done, Christ stands ready, willing and able to FORGIVE YOU!
But what if your SHAME was caused by something done to you? The second thing Christ offers you is how to forgive others. Clearly from the Cross Chirst commands us all to forgive. Clearly Christ wants us to follow HIS example and be forgivers. This is so, so important because the more we walk around in our shame refusing to receive forgiveness, refusing to forgive others and refusing the forgive ourselves, we will will stay on the Shame Train.
So if you want to get off the shame train and start living the life Christ wants you to live, then start by receiving the forgiveness of Christ, forgive others and forgive yourself. This little secret will literally change your life and set you free. Remember, "It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery" Gal. 5:1
If you want to know more about how to have the kind of marriage and relationships that Christ offers you. Even if you are not married, but you want to know more about how to walk in freedom and abundance, then why not get your own copy of our workbook and DVD series and start your own journey toward authenticity and wholeness. You can find more information at our on-line store or by clicking HERE.
Dale and Jena
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