Marriage and Family: 7 Secrets to a thriving marriage (Part 1)March 09, 2011
The name of the LORD is a fortified tower;
the righteous run to it and are safe. (Prov. 18:10)
In fact, that was one of the first questions that we were asked once we remarried. People would ask, "Dale and Jena, after all you did to one another, after all you said to one another, after the custody battle and the awful stuff that happened, how in the world did the love come back?" For us, we had a Proverbs 18:10 moment. We took our hurts, our fears, our pain and ran to Christ. We found our safety in HIM first, not one another. And as we did, we became SAFE MATES. That's why being a Safe Mate starts by knowing who you are in Christ, what Christ has done for you, resting in HIS love and acceptance. When this happens, you are then strenthened by HIS love, His grace, and HIS power. Take a moment and read these verses: Eph. 3:14-20, Col 1:9-12, 2 Tim 2:1.
You see with Christ as your SAFE TOWER, you have all the grace you need, all the power you need and all the love you need to hold one another's hearts well.
Unfortunately, most couples try to hold each other's hearts well in their own power, in their own strength, in their own love. And this is precisely the problem. It was through our divorce and remarriage that we figured out that if our marriage was really gonna make it, If our marriage is really going to rise above the mundane and if we are going to experience marriage at a higher place - truly thriving, then Christ has to be right in the center of it. Here's the bottom line: you can track the intimacy, closeness, connectedness and power in your marriage directly to your intimacy, closeness and connectedness with Christ. When this is going well, the marriage will go well. When it is not, the marriage won't either. So if you want a marriage where you hold each other's hearts well and live as Safe Mates, then find your Safety in Christ. When we are Safe in Christ we will be Safe with one another. After all this is Christ in you, the hope of glory. (Col. 1:27)
As we quoted in the Bible study "a great marriage only comes with great work" - So walk with Christ, develop your heart and work on your marriage with Christ as the center.
If you would like to work on your relationship with Christ and if you want your marriage to thrive, then why not click HERE and find out more information on our DVD Bible Study - Let's Get Real!
Dale and Jena
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