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Marriage and Family: Free to Love Again

April 27, 2016

A few years back, I asked the Father to surface anything in me that needs to be sacrificed. I wanted whatever was in my life that was hindering me from fulfilling the purposes for which God made me to be eradicated from my life, and placed on an altar where they could be put to death. Did you know that God LOVES the smell of death? He LOVES the smell of dead flesh!

The death of our flesh makes room for the life of Christ!

In seeking the Father about this, He revealed to me that I was unable to truly love people due to a spirit of offense that I had allowed to take root in my life. After being deeply wounded by people who I thought cared about me the most, my heart had grown numb to feeling anything at all for anybody. Now, certainly love is more than a feeling. I get that. But when you have been wounded deeply, your heart flatlines. Anybody? I just have to believe that others of you know exactly what I am talking about.

"And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another. And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many. And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold." ~Matthew 24:10-12~

Today, I want to give you some hope. I want the Father to set you, who have felt this entrapment, FREE. I want you to be FREE to love again, just as the Father has done for me. Your one requirement? FAITH. FAITH says, "I am going to believe the Word of God and act upon it, no matter how I feel because God promises a good result." (Thank you, Pastor James MacDonald!)


You must have/exercise FAITH in these Scriptures:

1) "For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself." ~Galatians 6:3~

I am going to believe that I am nothing, so as not to deceive myself. I am going to be humble, recognizing that I have also offended others just like those who have offended me. I stand in need of forgiveness just like they do. To think of myself more highly than that is to walk in pride which often leads to vengeance.

David had every right to be offended. So did Joseph. Yet they embraced humility and refused to get revenge.

2) "Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap." ~Galatians 6:7~

I am going to believe that if I sow love, I will reap love because that is what God has promised. But here's the important thing to see: God never said that you would reap from the same field you sow in. Have you ever thought about that?  I may sow love in one field, but reap love in another. God's promise is clear: what you sow you WILL reap.

3) "For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting." ~Galatians 6:8~

I am going to sow love not to please my flesh. Not to make me feel good. Not to have it reciprocated, as much as I would like that. No, I am going to sow love to please the Spirit. As a matter of fact, I am not loving people. I am loving the Spirit! And as I love the Spirit, I am promised that I WILL reap never ending life! That word "life" is "Zoe" and means "vibrancy: superior in quality and super abundant in quantity; animation; excitement". That's the life God desires for you!

4) "And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." ~Galatians 6:9~

I am not going to quit loving others, just because some have been emotionally brutal. Even though it seems more safe emotionally, to quit loving everyone. Now hear me when I say that if you have been emotionally abused, you definitely need to set boundaries on those people. But if you have "lumped and dumped" everybody into this catagory, emotionally shut down, and have become numb to everybody, you are missing out on the joys of loving. [Side note: Part of loving is limits, which does feel "mean" to us, and yet limits are the most loving thing you can do.] I am saying that I am not going to quit loving because of a few, but I am going to continue to love, whatever that may look like, banking on the promise that if I don't quit, I will reap love.

5) "As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith." ~Galatians 6:10~

I am going to ask the Spirit to reveal to me the opportunities to do good to others; even those who have hurt me. That may mean that all I can do is pray for them (which is huge) from a distance, but nonetheless, it is a loving thing to do. Again, I am lovingly sowing into the Spirit, not the flesh, and I am promised to reap love in return.

What has this change of perspective and FAITH in the truths about love found in God's Word doing for me? It is freeing me to not be concerned, feel like a failure, feel rejected, or be offended when love is not returned. I can just sow seeds of love to the Spirit and trust that I WILL reap what I sow.


May you find this freedom to love again.

If you want to know God for who He truly is, click HERE and start that journey today!

JOIN THE CONVERSATION:  Have you ever loved someone even though they wounded you?  How did you do so?  What did it do for your own soul?  How did this free you? 

This blog was written by Jena as part of her Living Deeper Ministries to women.  If you'd like more information Living Deeper Ministries, visit:  www.livingdeeperministries.com


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