Marriage and Family: Loss and Dr. SeussMay 21, 2015
As a child growing up, my mother made sure that everything was an opportunity for celebration. She made every holiday and special day a day to be remembered. It made the one being celebrated feel so special.
When I became a mother myself, I carried on my mother's tradition and influence to make every event a memorable celebration for my husband and children. Every party is often extravagant because I want them to know how very special they are. I call it "making memories". You will often hear me say, "we just made a memory!"
Over the last several weeks, I have encountered so many who have experienced loss. From children graduating high school and heading off to college, to children getting married and moving away from home, to loved ones passing away, so many are suffering the heartache of loss. It is a pain that is often inexplainable; and the process of grieving the loss is often a roller coaster of emotions, as you seek to find some kind of comfort and closure.
I was texting a very dear friend of mine who lost a child a few years ago. She is one of my heroes, because of the way she has walked so closely with Jesus through such deep pain, and now shares her life and story to help others. She is amazing to me. As we caught up and texted abot how to pray for each other, she was texting about all the graduation festivities and how another child will leave the nest for college....how time seems to fly by. But then, she shared with me a quote from Dr. Seuss, that has given her great perspective:
"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."
WOW. I just love that way of thinking. You made so many memories with that person. To have precious memories and be able to remember them is a priceless treasure.
Paul said it like this, "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." (Philippians 4:8) Instead of mulling around a negative thought in your head, get a new one that celebrates the memories you made together.
Somehow, I hope this brings comfort to so many of my friends who are hurting. I encourage you to write down all the wonderful memories you have with the person you lost and think about these things. They can actually bring joy, encouragement, comfort, and even inspiration to your souls. And while there may be moments of tears, may we all find more moments of smiling at the memories made together.
You are loved.
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